In terms of the birth
rate, men and women are almost equal in number. But subsequently, for a variety
of reasons, the number of men in society decrease, leaving an excess of women.
Now the question arises as to what should be the solution to this problem. In
view of the inevitability of this imbalance, how is a healthy relationship
between the sexes to be established? The choice for us, therefore, is not
between monogamy and polygamy, but rather, between lawful polygamy of Islam or
the illicit polygamy of non-Islamic peoples.
Records show that male
and female births are almost equal in number. But a study of mortality shows
that the rate is higher for men than for women. This disparity is in evidence from early childhood
to extreme old age. According to Encyclopaedia Britannica: “In general, the
risk of death at any given age is less for female than for males.”
The proportionately
higher numbers of women in society can be traced to a variety of causes. For
instance, when war breaks out, the majority of the casualties are men. In the
First World War (1914 – 1918) about 8 million soldiers were killed. Most of the
civilians killed were also men. In the Second World War (1939 – 1945) about 60
million people were either killed or maimed for life, most of them men. In the
Iraq – Iran war alone (1979 – 1988), 82,000 Iranian women and about 100,000
Iraqi women were widowed. All in the space of ten years.
Another drain on the availability
of men in society is imprisonment. In the U.S., the most civilized society
modern times, no less than 1,300,00 people are convicted daily for one crime or
another. A number of them – 97% of whom are men – are obliged to serve lengthy
prison sentences.
There is no country in
which accidents do not take place every day on the streets, in the factories
and wherever sophisticated, heavy machinery is handled by human beings. In this
modern industrial age, such accidents are so much on the increase that a whole
new discipline has come into being – safety engineering. According to data
collected in 1967, in that year a total of 175,00 people died as a result of
accidents in fifty different countries. Most of these were men.
One point greatly in
need of clarification is the fact that in the matter of marrying more than one
woman, the initiative does not lie solely with any individual man. There is
always the condition – an inescapable one – that whatever the society, the
women should outnumber the men. Suppose the earth were inhabited by one billion
people out of which 500 million were women. It would not then be possible in
such a situation for a man to have more than one wife. A second, third or
fourth wife would be obtained only by force. But in Islam, a forced marriage is
not considered lawful. According to the shari’ah the willingness of the
bride-to-be is a compulsory condition.
By following the principle of monogamy,
hundreds of thousands of women fail to find husbands for themselves and are
thus denied an honorable place in society. Monogamy as an absolute principle
may seem pleasing to some, but events show that this is not fully practicable
in the world of today. The choice for us, therefore, is not between monogamy
and polygamy, but rather between the lawful polygamy of Islam and the illicit
polygamy of non-Islamic peoples. The latter system leaves “surplus” women to
lead lives of sexual anarchy and social destruction. The former, on the other
hand, permit them to opt on their own free will for marriage with anyone can
give fair treatment to more than one wife.
The Encyclopaedia
Britannica (1984) aptly concludes that one reason for adopting polygamy is
surplus of women. Among most peoples who permit or prefer it, the large
majority of men live in a state of monogamy because of limited number of women.
To have more than one
wife is not an ideal in Islam. It is, in essence, a practical solution to a
social problem.